Birmingham City manager Steve Bruce reacted with commendable restraint to the two moments of controversy that wrecked his side's hopes of a Boxing Day present at White Hart Lane.
There's nothing like a good mystery to keep the family entertained at Christmas.
And Blues' large family of fans were last night crowding round their televisions to try and explain the riddle of 'When is a dive not a dive?'
There seemed little difference between the challenge by Blues defender Matthew Upson on Tottenham Hotspur striker Robbie Keane to the one seven minutes later at the other end by Spurs defender Michael Dawson on Muzzy Izzet.
The first went in favour of the home side to earn Spurs the penalty, scored by Keane, which put them on the way to a 2-0 win. But, crucially, referee Phil Dowd also favoured the home side with his second vital decision, denying Blues a penalty and reducing them to ten men by issuing Izzet a second booking for an alleged 'dive'.
The two incidents, coming in quick succession, effectively settled the contest for relegation-threatened Blues.
And although it left Bruce picking his words very carefully, at least the big-hearted Geordie's legendary sense of humour is still intact.
"I can't really say much because you know what happens," he said. "I'm skint at the minute not having had much win bonus lately.
"But when you're in the position we're in, how often do you see that?
"Usually, I've the utmost respect for that ref, but today I thought he was poor.
"It's hard enough to come here with 11 men. And today we've probably played against 12.
"He couldn't wait to get the red card out of his pocket.
"Muzzy was booked in the first half for nothing and then in the second half for an alleged dive. But did Robbie Keane not make a meal of it?
"Muzzy is one of the best pros I've worked with. But to question him like that, you can imagine how we feel.
"He hasn't looked to go down. He hasn't gone looking for the pen. He hasn't thrown himself to the ground the way Keane did.
"If anybody made a meal of it, it was Robbie Keane."
Izzet's red card was Blues' fifth of the season - leaving them sporting the worst record in the Premiership. And that further frustrated the Blues boss.
"Five red cards," he said, with a sad shake of the head. "That's what the game's come to. It's pathetic."